Lacy Danes

Oct 9
Do you love your job?

Today in my counseling session we talked about my kids and the role I want to play in their lives. We talked about my job… my next career choice and how going back into QA would be like creating a rift in myself. This is a chance for me to break out and do something that makes me happy instead of makes me money.

I have not really thought about this up until this point. I have been busy doing everything that I should and shouldn’t but she is right. I hated QA. Yes it pays well. Yes I am good at what I do. Nevertheless, it has been a job that I have never fully enjoyed. When I was working on photographic QA, Imaging software and the like, I did enjoy aspects of my job. My last job was at a bank. I’m not a money person. I’m not a numbers person… I have to count on my hands to add for Christ sake. Eek did I just say that.

My first priority has always been my kids; I said that I was working to make money for them. But you know all my kids really want is a happy Mom. They don’t care if they are wearing the best clothes or ones that have been handed down. They don’t care if they have to share a room. All they want is to feel my happiness and be bathed in my love.

Having a job that I’m happy with, that will allow me more time with my kids, and still enable me to write, that is my dream job.

Anyone know where I can find that position?

3 comments to “Do you love your job?”

  1. Shelli Stevens
      · October 9th, 2006 at 11:48 pm · Link

    No clue! I wish I knew 🙂

  2. Someone who cares
      · October 10th, 2006 at 12:25 am · Link

    Many years ago, when just out of college, I was offered a job that paid very very well, and would let me live in a place that was, at that time, my favorite city in the world. It was an exciting job, with lots of travel, and would have fulfilled some childhood fantasies, but was not, in the long run, what I wanted to do with my life. It was also a job that would have been hard to quit.

    The other side of the coin was to try to pursue my passion, my creative art, as a full-time profession. I am a musician, and was signed, at an early age, to a major label. This did not make me any where near enough money to live on, and certainly not enough to raise a family on, and raising a family was more important to me than the full-time pursuit of a musical career. Also, to make ends meet as a musician, I was forced to take gigs I did not like, because I needed the money. In a way, it polluted the joy of music for me.

    The balance I struck was to start a company that makes musical equipment. It makes me enough money to live pretty well, but I am not getting rich off of it. Sure, for a long time I worked like a dog, but that phase is over. Now, I am involved with musicians every day. I make things that my musical heroes use and love, and I get to play the music I want when I want, with the people I want to play with. I still perform a bit. I still record a bit, and I play exactly what I want, without any need to care if it sells and makes me money or not. Sure, it would be nice if it sold well, but to make the music I want and not make much money from it beats the heck out of making music I don’t like in order to eek out a living, and a modest one at that.

    Yes, my work is stressful, and being the owner, I don’t always leave it at the office, but I do have enormous freedom, and it’s not bad work. That said, though I am known well in the music community for what I do, it is not who I am.

    Finding a job that fits you, as a creative person, is a difficult and ongoing dilemma. If you choose to write full-time, you may make a great living at it, and then again, you may not. You may find yourself having to take writing work that you do not like, and that may spoil writing for you, for a while, at least.

    I would think that an ideal “day job” would be one that you enjoy (more or less) and that leaves you the mental space to go home and write when you can. You are not like most people. You are a creator of fantasy, a weaver of tales. Your art and your source of income need not be the same, but need to be, on as many levels as possible, compatible.

    Having children, you need enough income to be able to provide for them, but your skill set is such that you should not have much trouble finding work. The challenge will be to find work that makes you an adequate income and that you can leave at the office when you go home to your children and to your word processor. There is enough software work in the Seattle area that you should be able to find something in a parallel but not identical area to what you have been doing, to build on and cash in on your work experience. You just need to find something that will not burden you with added stress when the day is done.

    This is what my personal experience has taught me. I hope you find something of value for yourself in it.

  3. Sasha White
      · October 11th, 2006 at 4:51 pm · Link

    I think being happyu is more important for you, as well as an important lesson for your children. Teach tehm by example that being happy is more important than making lots of money. (Of course, making enough to live on is always good though *grin* )

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