A wise friend of mine told me recently that trusting anyone is a risk. That taking a blind leap in placing yourself and who you are in someone else’s hands is scary, but most of the amazing things in life require you to take a big risk. TRUST.
Trust that the person is not going to hurt you. That they are being honest. That they respect who you are and what your beliefs are.
They told me that it is always okay to question your decisions, to question peoples motives, but ultimately it is still just a risk that you have to either take or not.
This made sense to me. I have found myself lately having to do just that. Taking the risk to blindly trust new friends, new lovers. Sometimes this is an easy process; the trust is there without question, other times it does not come so easily. Sometimes an action, a word, or a misunderstanding smudges the trust. Communication is very important when this blurring happens. If you can’t talk openly then trust can and will get lost.
People make mistakes and you have to decide if you can, or are willing to, throw that mistake away in hope that they have learned from their actions. You either move forward to a stronger relationship or change the type of relationship you have. Each connection is different and there is no one answer to this deeply personal question.
I tend to think the best of people… Foolish of me? I don’t think so. I would rather think that there was something good about every person than only see the bad.