Lacy Danes

Oct 11

A wise friend of mine told me recently that trusting anyone is a risk. That taking a blind leap in placing yourself and who you are in someone else’s hands is scary, but most of the amazing things in life require you to take a big risk. TRUST.

Trust that the person is not going to hurt you. That they are being honest. That they respect who you are and what your beliefs are.

They told me that it is always okay to question your decisions, to question peoples motives, but ultimately it is still just a risk that you have to either take or not.

This made sense to me. I have found myself lately having to do just that. Taking the risk to blindly trust new friends, new lovers. Sometimes this is an easy process; the trust is there without question, other times it does not come so easily. Sometimes an action, a word, or a misunderstanding smudges the trust. Communication is very important when this blurring happens. If you can’t talk openly then trust can and will get lost.

People make mistakes and you have to decide if you can, or are willing to, throw that mistake away in hope that they have learned from their actions. You either move forward to a stronger relationship or change the type of relationship you have. Each connection is different and there is no one answer to this deeply personal question.

I tend to think the best of people… Foolish of me? I don’t think so. I would rather think that there was something good about every person than only see the bad.


3 comments to “Trust”

  1. Sasha White
      · October 11th, 2006 at 4:48 pm · Link

    Hey Lacy, Great post, and one that hit home right now, as I too am learning to trust. Actually, maybe saying trying to learn to trust, as it’s easy say “I trust You”, and easy to want to trust, but not always so easy to do.

  2. Lillian Feisty
      · October 17th, 2006 at 1:33 pm · Link

    I tend to trust too easily, and that’s not always a good thing. I do get hurt sometimes, but on the the other hand I have lots of room in my heart for wonderful new friends. Like you, Shelly and Shawn. I’ve only met you guys two times, yet I totally trust you. Sometimes you just have to go on instinct.

  3. Emma Petersen
      · October 21st, 2006 at 2:28 pm · Link

    You aren’t foolish to think the best of someone. Life is hard enough without constantly searching for the ulterior motive in everyone’s actions. Like I told my friend last night, some things are worth fighting for, worth opening yourself up to and leaving yourself vulnerable for. Because in the end, even if you get hurt, you’ve still got learned something from the experience and to me, that’s better than a “what if”. What if I would have tried a little harder? What if I would have been more open? What if…

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