Lacy Danes

Jul 18
Truth, Lessons Learned, and Becoming A Better Person.

I have been thinking a lot about truth…
When someone says they are telling the truth is it really the truth everyone sees.

In my next book my heroine, a naïve English lady, is trying to find out the truth about her brother. She sees him as one man, while the town folks and others see him as something entirely different, something her strict religious up brining will not allow her to believe or even see in him. She is shocked to find out he is the scandalous rogue that everyone says. Through the hero, who is also a rogue of a different variety, and an older woman friend, in the end she learns that even rogues can be wonderful man.

Any way So… there is a scene that unfolds in front of three people or maybe it is something that happens to three people all at the same time. Each person takes away something different from witnessing/experiencing this … Their own version of the truth that unfolded.


Well because we all have our own filters that we take information through and even though we all witnessed or experienced the exact same thing. Our past lives, our emotions, our up brining and our values, ALL play into what we see, hear, feel.

Person one, sees everything through his strict religious up brining and need for security minus change.
Person two, sees it with hard skeptic’s eyes, because nothing kind has ever happened to her.
Person three, sees the good in everything, and so takes away the optimistic interpretation.

All of theses filters that we have learned through experiences, and up brining, shape us… they help us to understand or not understand what version of the truth is our truth…

The bad thing is… once you learn something you can never unlearn it… all you can do is learn something new…something deeper, and expand your filters to become the person you want to be.

I guess that is it.

Hugs and Kisses

Decided to add this… the definition of TRUTH
truth /truθ/ Pronunciation Key – Show Spelled Pronunciation[trooth] Pronunciation Key – Show IPA Pronunciation,
–noun, plural truths /truðz, truθs/ Pronunciation Key – Show Spelled Pronunciation[troothz, trooths] Pronunciation Key – Show IPA Pronunciation. 1. the true or actual state of a matter: He tried to find out the truth.
2. conformity with fact or reality; verity: the truth of a statement.
3. a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like: mathematical truths.
4. the state or character of being true.
5. actuality or actual existence.
6. an obvious or accepted fact; truism; platitude.
7. honesty; integrity; truthfulness.
8. (often initial capital letter) ideal or fundamental reality apart from and transcending perceived experience: the basic truths of life.
9. agreement with a standard or original.
10. accuracy, as of position or adjustment.
11. Archaic. fidelity or constancy.

4 comments to “Truth, Lessons Learned, and Becoming A Better Person.”

  1. Anonymous
      · July 18th, 2007 at 5:32 pm · Link

    There is a difference between truth and honesty. The former has many interpretations and, as you said, is viewed from many filters and viewpoints.

    Honesty takes guts, integrity and strength and isn’t open to much interpretation. Most people know when they are being honest and when they are not. It’s a choice, like any other.

    I tend to see the good, which is its own weakness, but is nevertheless, how I prefer to look at the world.

  2. Lacy Danes
      · July 18th, 2007 at 7:45 pm · Link

    Decided to add this… the definition of TRUTH

    Very Good Point Anonymous…

    Honesty is very different…though related…
    Here is the definition:
    hon•es•ty /ˈɒnəsti/ Pronunciation Key – Show Spelled Pronunciation[on-uh-stee] Pronunciation Key – Show IPA Pronunciation
    –noun, plural -ties. 1. the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
    2. truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.
    3. freedom from deceit or fraud.
    4. Botany. a plant, Lunaria annua, of the mustard family, having clusters of purple flowers and semitransparent, satiny pods.

    Honesty is something that each of us choose to either tell or not. Most people lie every day in one form or another. There are many forms of lying, omitting information, spinning the facts or words to your benefit or benefit of others, understating the facts, over stating the facts, and flat out misrepresentation. I am sure there are more but those are off the top of my head.

    Hugs and Kisses,

  3. Lacy Danes
      · July 18th, 2007 at 7:51 pm · Link

    Oh and I wanted to add…
    Yes, indeed, I am one of those people who always finds the best in everyone.

    I’m also overly empathetic and easily forgive.

    Those qualities are both good and bad… I get hurt a lot more often, but I see the world in a positive light.


  4. Anonymous
      · July 18th, 2007 at 8:00 pm · Link

    I am exactly the same way. I like living in a world where I believe the best of people. It’s important to me.

    And yes we probably do get hurt more or taken advantage of more, but at the end of the day, I would still rather look and see the good qualities than the bad. Easier on some days, certainly.

    And honesty is a choice. A choice I value very much.

    I appreciate your comments and the added definitions.

    Hope this day gets better for you.

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